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If the relationship doesn’t make you a better person…

If the relationship doesn’t make you a better person,
then you are with the wrong one.

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Give up Being Right: Is being right more important than your relationships?

Misunderstanding and disagreement in any relationship can actually be an opportunity to learn about ourselves.  However, most of the time we simply focus on how the other person is wrong.  It is easier to point the finger than to look to ourselves and face the unpleasant truth that we may share some or all of the responsibility.  We think, “If he (or she) were only more considerate, had more time for me, or did the dishes more, then I’d be happy.”

Instead of looking at our own behavior, we believe that the other person is the problem.  We believe we are justified, reasonable and more than fair.  They need to change.

When I believe I am right, I spend an exorbitant amount of time re-hashing the situation in my mind.  I obsessively review the other person’s responses and actions to find the evidence I need to be right.  In this internal dialogue, nothing changes.  I try to rebuild my case, yet I get nowhere.  If I continue down this path, when the time comes to discuss the matter with the other person, I’ve already become the judge, jury, and executioner.

It really does take more energy to hold on to being right than it does simply to be responsible for our behavior.  When we are willing to let go, problems can be solved more easily.  People are more willing to listen, to be open, and even to acknowledge responsibility when they are not under attack.

Practice:

Identify Your Expectations:
First acknowledge you have expectations.  Then ask yourself if you are willing to give them up.  Stop expecting others to read your mind, to know what you want and need, and to satisfy your unspoken expectations.  Stop waiting for people to complete you.

Stop Keeping Score:
Yesterday’s argument doesn’t have to carry over.  Don’t bring it into your next dispute.  Don’t throw things in each other’s faces.  Accept that we are all human.  We all make mistakes.  We have our moods, our reactions, our fears.

Acceptance:
Love people for who they are and who they aren’t.  Allow them to change and grow.  Be willing to see them newly.  Don’t put them in a box.  Instead of trying to make them be who you want them to be, give them the space to be who they are.

Give up Being Right:
Ask yourself–how important is your position, really?  Is being right more important than your relationships?

 

By Kristen Moeller

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Never hide if you’re in a relationship.

Never hide if you’re in a relationship.
If you do, it’s not a relationship at all.
It’s a lie that you created.

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Most people cheat…

Most people cheat because they’re too focused on
what they’re missing instead of appreciating what they have.

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If your boyfriend wants you for your breasts…

If your boyfriend wants you for your breasts, legs, or thighs, send him to KFC.
You’re a girl, not some value meal at a fastfood restraunt.

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Severing relationships are often difficult…

Severing relationships are often difficult especially if one person is more emotionally invested than the other. However, in ALMOST all cases those who hurt the most will probably end-up happier because in hindsight when the healing begins and they learn the lessons of being taken for granted, they will discover their true worth and hopefully, they will no longer settle for crumbs.

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When a guy wants to be with you, he’ll be with you.

When a guy wants to be with you, he’ll be with you. Period.
No excuses. No drama, shadiness or uncertainty.

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Jealousy in relationships is actually quite normal.

Jealousy in relationships is actually quite normal.

A little jealousy is one way of showing how much we love our significant other. On the other hand, however, too much jealousy signifies a lack of trust in our partner and may break a happy union.

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Being yourself is what makes you attractive.

Being yourself is what makes you attractive.
Being something you’re not makes you a liar.
Relationship built on lies don’t last.

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Complicated relationship is one which…

Complicated relationship is one which is not that smooth and easy going. The two partners are involved in more fights and heated discussions, rather than talk of love and affection. Disputes and differences are a regular feature of such a relationship. Complicated relationships are difficult to manage and bear. If you feel your relationship is getting complicated, there are always two ways to sort this thing out. First is that you can obviously sit down with your partner, let him know the state of affairs and resolve all your differences and discussions mutually. The other way is to part on mutual terms, if you feel you cannot take the pains any more. If something starts causing pain and gives you tension, it is better that you do away with it completely.

In the words of August Strindberg, “A man with a so-called character is often a simple piece of mechanism; he has often only one point of view for the extremely complicated relationships of life.”

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