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Push That Grief Away

It is so easy to let your sadness become your writing inspiration and you might feel lighter after doing it. I know some 100 something readers who also happen to be my friends and they get a little uneasy every time I express sadness. Down in the dumps? Listening to sad songs that only make you cry more? Sure, crying is a good thing. But for how long? If crying only makes you cry more, you have to re-evaluate how good is it in the first place.

It’s so easy to let grief become your inspiration for a spontaneous flow of words. Starting today, take control and fight it. Push it out of your system and make an effort to see beyond it. Ask yourself, will this matter tomorrow as much as it does today? If it does, then put in more effort, more courage, because believe you me, you are blessed with powers that run so deep you’ll make it through. Write happy things. When you’re done, read them and tell yourself this is what you’ve always believed in. Feelings are reinforced when they take the form of words. So do read them. Then reread them till they sink in and you recognize the old spark in you coming back.

Push the sadness away because you are so much more than that. Take a step forward. You’re passing through no doors as long as you don’t take that step. Heard of divide and conquer rule? Let me introduce the *smile and conquer* rule today. Smile because it happened; the good, the bad AND the ugly. There is a reason to every thing and you don’t always have to know those reasons. May be God is making new, better, happier plans for you. May be you’re meant to go an awfully long, but brilliant new way. Have faith and never lose sight of your dreams. Your troubles are only meant to take you there.

From: http://www.myperfectline.com

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If your spirit…

If your spirit tells you it’s time to weep, listen.

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The After Loss Credo

I need to talk about my loss.
I may often need to tell you what happened –
or to ask you why it happened.
Each time I discuss my loss, I am helping myself
face the reality of the death of my loved one.

I need to know that you care about me.
I need to feel your touch, your hugs.
I need you just to be “with” me.
(And I need to be with you.)
I need to know you believe in me and in my
ability to get through my grief in my own way.
(And in my own time.)

Please don’t judge me now –
or think that I’m behaving strangely.
Remember I’m grieving.
I may even be in shock.
I may feel afraid. I may feel deep rage.
I may even feel guilty. But above all, I hurt.
I’m experiencing a pain unlike any I’ve ever felt before.

Don’t worry if you think I’m getting better
and then suddenly I seem to slip backward.
Grief makes me behave this way at times.
And please don’t tell me you “know how I feel,”
or that it’s time for me to get on with my life.
(I am probably already saying this to myself.)
What I need now is time to grieve and to recover.

Most of all, thank you for being my friend.
Thank you for your patience.
Thank you for caring.
Thank you for helping, for understanding.
Thank you for praying for me.
And remember, in the days or years ahead,
when you may have a loss – when you need me
as I have needed you – I will understand.
And then I will come and be with you.

Author: Barbara Hills LesStrang

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A death in the family leaves a void that cannot be filled.

A death in the family leaves a void that cannot be filled. No one can ever take the place of this individual in the world. We should not try to comfort the family by saying that “it was his time anyway” or, “he was suffering”. These may be words of comfort later. However, there must be time to mourn the fact that things will never be the same. One minute he was here and now he is gone. The human mind must be allowed to sit with this reality. Mourning is a necessary part of the human experience. If it is ignored, a general feeling of sadness may pervade the whole family.

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What is an angel parent?

What is an angel parent?

An angel mom is someone who carried her baby in her heart instead of her arms. She sometimes feels like a failure and feels she has let herself and her sweet lil angel down, but other times she is proud to be an angel mom as only special woman carry angels. Her life from now on is and will be a rollercoaster ride. Sometimes she will smile and laugh. This doesn’t mean she’s over it. It means her angel has given her a reason to smile. Other times she may cry, not because she has lost it or not coping, it’s because she has heard a song, read a poem, or been to a place that reminds her of her angel. All of these are perfectly normal.

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Know that your loss is not a punishment from God

Know that your loss is not a punishment from God or any spiritual test.
Death is part of life and God shares the pain and hurt you feel.
Often your spiritual faith will lead you to better days.

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Grieving is a place no one else knows until they are there…

Grieving is a place no one else knows until they are there,
so give yourself permisison to take your time.
Expect different stages in your grief,
you may feel mad, sad, numb, anger, fear, regret
and eventually acceptance and hope.

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Don’t push people away, let them cry with you, and offer comfort.

Don’t push people away, let them cry with you, and offer comfort.
In time, this will help the healing process.
Give yourself time to walk through the grieving process
and know there is not one certain way to grieve;
everyone is different just like the snowflakes falling from the sky.

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Know that it is not only okay to cry

Know that it is not only okay to cry but you should
because the tears you shed express the love for the one you lost,
eventually you will wash away some of the sadness and pain.

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Even if there’s no one to understand…

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